Do you remember that feeling of holding your pregnancy test and it was positive? Maybe you were early to mid-twenties and it’s your first baby. How about holding that baby for the first time? Watching them take their steps and teaching them how to walk and talk. And then maybe you did all that all over again two even three times so you had a little brood of your own. All of those children you taught to walk, talk and use a spoon grow up and become teenagers who are finding their own identities among the chaos of school, hobbies and home life. You guide them through this, guide them through exams and social pressures and deliver well-rounded 18 year old young adults into the world and off they go to university, post graduate schools, meet someone and start to build their own families. Sounds fast, doesn’t it?
That’s because it is. One moment you’re holding your first born child and the next you’re holding their first born and in the blink of an eye the house is empty. How loud is the house without clattering steps, arguing about possessions and the laughter round the dinner table? It can lead to depression in some adults and in some, breakdown of marriages. By the time you’ve diluted your life with children and school runs you and your husband/wife have to find yourselves again. Sometimes, especially if you haven’t been working, the children have been your whole life. And they can be again. Consider the number of children out there without loving parents or homes that they can feel safe it. Consider contacting agencies such as nextstepfostering.org and speaking to someone about becoming a foster carer.
Sometimes your home can feel rather large and empty and it doesn’t have to be. If you have the space and the patience then taking a very important step in the role of a child who has never had stability or known what parental love feels like is just amazing. Imagine allowing your doors and your heart to open to other children who haven’t been as fortunate as your own. There are children out there that never know what it feels like to have a stable roof; the same bed, three square meals a day. They just don’t know how to react when someone cares for them because everyone else who has cared for them has let them down in a huge way.
Nextstepfostering.org can tell you whether you’re the right person to become a foster carer and whether or not you have the right tools in your home to be able to guide another young person. Don’t forget, children in the system won’t have had the same treatment you would have given your own and this can lead to them being very guarded, frightened and quite simply, angry. You have to ensure you’re in a position to help them open up while they’re with you and allow them to feel their feelings.